The bond between a mother and her children is something beyond anyone's control or understanding. It is a link that cannot be destroyed by distance, time or death. It is as if the umbilical cord is forever connected. In the womb, the umbilical cord delivers the oxygen and nutrients needed for the baby to grow, in the same way that the bond between a mother and her children delivers the well-being of the children for the duration of their life. The experiences a baby has with their mother are crucial to the early wiring and enables millions of new connections in the brain to be made.
According to a study published in the 'London Journal of Primary Care' , early interactions and communication between a baby and its caregiver help memories and relationships to be formed and learning and logic to develop. If the experiences are negative, i.e. the baby-carer bond doesn't exist, the pathway needed for human interaction may be lost. Case studies show that children who have survived with minimal human contact illustrate a severe lack of language and emotional development in the absence of love, language and attention. Indeed studies have reported that a child’s ability to form and maintain healthy relationships throughout life may be significantly impaired by having an insecure attachment to their mother or primary caregiver.
This highlights the importance of the bond between mothers and babies in their crucial early years. The most valuable gift that a child can receive is love and support, and this is free.
A child who has the love and support of the carer for the duration of their life, will be a stronger, saner and more balanced person later in life. Without a good initial bond, children are less likely to grow up to become happy, independent and resilient adults. A carer-child relationship will become the template on which the child's future relationships are based. Therefore, it is not wrong to say that our carers love is the foundation of our well-being.
I lost my mother when I was 11. This was and still is the worst experience in my life and the one that has changed me the most . Everything changed for me from that moment on.
Apart from one thing: my love and my connection with my mother.
The bond we formed during my infancy and childhood years can surpass death. Thanks to those years and the love she showed me, I have been able to overcome her loss and become an independent, resilient and (mostly) happy adult.
Thank you, mum!
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Written by blog writer, Alexandra Teodor
Born in Romania in a family of 4 at only 700 grams and 7 months I’ve learned early that life is not always fair and that I need to fight my way through it. I am sometimes a dreamer, sometimes a realist, sometimes sceptic, sometimes a naïve, sometimes a fighter, sometimes a pacifist, sometimes cute, sometimes annoying. I am not a one thing, I am many emotions, experiences, and feelings, but I am always true to myself. Every woman should be free to choose what to do, how to live, who to live with, what to wear, how to feel.